Life in the past 180 days..!!!!

Now I know what people mean when they say that time flies. 6 months ago, on this very same date (i.e. 11th Feb 2012) I was freaking out with mixed emotions and the constant fear of tripping over my wedding gown while walking down the aisle to the man of my life (my husband) who right now is busy checking out the instruction manual of a car vacuum cleaner kit that I just bought for him :-)

Well yes it doesn't feels like just 6 months, marriage as an institution has a unique ability to make one feel that they've been in it for so long. And I share the same feeling of being with Rahul for not just these 180 days, seems like I've always been here daily watching him drag himself out of bed at the last minute in the morning and being forcefully thrown of the house to go to work. Please don't read in too much there, he believes in the concept of hard working which is hardly working lol.

People say, change is the only constant in this world, and I would agree that life has definitely changed in the past 180 days. Earlier it used to be an early morning marathon for me to get up on time to greet my maid and then to leave for work so that I can indulge in my guilty pleasures of monthly retail therapy. Well now it’s a different ordeal to get out of the bed because my husband has an endearing habit of putting me to some extra hours of sleep just so that I don't end up dragging him out of the bed. (I’m his worst enemy in the morning)

Driving & swimming were two things that I had given up in life, thinking that I would never be able to learn. But didn’t know what destiny had in store for me, my husband is one freak when it comes cars & bikes. Rahul is like a search engine for all those who have any queries on varied kinds of cars and bikes in the world, sometimes I wonder if was a mechanic in his previous life. So when I told him that I don’t know how to drive a car, he was shell shocked and the first thing that he does after marriage is giving me driving lessons. Me being extremely low on my patience levels found it extremely difficult to deal with his overtly righteous driving techniques, but he didn’t give up on me and didn’t allow me to give up either. And today here I am mapping the roads of the city all by myself, driving on the highway on road trips with him & his official chauffer. I’m sure he is one proud teacher, and yes there are some awesome moments when I do get complimented by him for my amazing driving skills.

Marriage is a constant process of transition; there are certain things you learn naturally without any realization while there are certain other things which require a lot of effort and patience. I am one control freak, have occasional mood swings, suffer from obsessive compulsive disorder for cleaning & organizing, right in the face straightforward kind of a person and people with such qualities do get to experience a lot of hostile behavior from the world.  But thankfully Rahul has managed to handle all of this in a remarkable way, (thanks to his amazing people management skills). And yes, I guess I forgot to mention as to how stubborn I can be at times (Rahul I know u will say at times??? No most of the time), but only this man has the skills of convincing me to end up doing things which I would never do in my normal sane state of mind. (Example joining him & his Frisbee team)

It’s been crazy 180 days of:-

Share & care-  Rahul sweetly shared his wardrobe space which now is completely sabotaged by my clothes and never ending list of foot wears.

Patience & Understanding- He patiently deals with my control freak nature, while I end up understanding his never ending love for cars and bikes especially when he gives lecherous looks to these machines.

Love & Companionship- We love each other’s company and we do manage to do a lot of fun stuff together. Thankfully we both share love for travelling, watching movies & exploring new watering holes. (Yes, our never ending love for various spirits keeps us so spiritually united)

Constant Nagging & Stupid Fights- Life is incomplete without our repetitive and constant nagging at each other. I get yelled & shouted upon for few things like skipping meals or biting my nails. While Rahul gets nagged for so many things that I don’t even remember.

Surprises- We both like surprising each other, but the curious cat that I am, I always end up killing all of Rahul’s surprises for me. In spite of that he has managed to surprise me hell lots of time, which is quite remarkable :-)

Marriage was never there on my agenda of life, it happened only because of constant efforts of my parents exploring the matrimonial sites for a suitable match. And thankfully I’d say that God was kind enough to bless me with a man like Rahul who very well endures with all my craziness. I’m more of amazed than happy that we’ve pulled through 6 months without killing each other (99% chances of me killing him)

Thank you Rahul, for being so patient with me all the time (especially when I stress out at the drop of a hat), for being there always (especially when I call you to ask for directions), for making me midnight snacks (for my crazy mid-night hunger pangs), for all the little surprises that you plan (though I end up killing it most of the times) and all those small gestures which makes me feel so very special. Life’s been amazing so far and I so happily look forward to many more days, months and years of madness & craziness with you.

I’m no Beauty Queen, I’m just beautiful me..!!!!

Well this one’s out for the lovely ladies out there, who like me deal with so many issues in life on a daily basis. And yes it’s a never ending list that starts with weight issues, damn those size zero actresses & models on the TV who make it miserable for each one of us who love to eat but slog hard to lose those extra calories & when we can’t do much just blame it on our genes & poor metabolism. And then it continues to hair problems (trust me all that glitters on those TV commercials is not gold) plethora of products used together cannot get that hair shiny & glossy, and yes no matter what age-defying cream one may use, those lines are really mean and nasty as they magically start appearing with every additional year.

In the commercial fights of various brands promoting their endless range of products to look young & beautiful there is one constant pressure of retaining that youthful look. No one talks about staying healthy & fit, why there is such ostentatious pressure of being thin or size zero? Well I’ll be lying if I say that my weight doesn’t bother me, it does bothers me hell lots. I went through a hell of 6 months of crash diet & intense workout regime to lose some extra 12 kilos that I had put on (all thanks to my foodie friends @ Barista). But gradually I understood the importance of fitness, now the priority is to stay fit & eat healthy. Needless to mention that occasional indulgences are bound to happen, c’mon we all have some or the other food craving (trust me mine are the worse, I suffer from obsessive midnight hunger pangs).

And yes I don’t believe when women say “age is just a number, it’s the state of mind that matters”; this is one of the most clichéd statements of today’s world of cosmetology & Laser surgeries. Age is one number that bother’s everyone; I started hating candles on the birthday cakes post my 21st birthday, so please don’t even bother to guess my age now J lol.  Nevertheless the only way I deal with that increasing number by keeping my-self healthy, indulging in hobbies that work out as stress buster for me, like occasional & innovative cooking (more than me my husband gets happy with this one), reading, dancing, and my most favorite hobby is lolling around the house in the most shabbiest pair of shorts & T’shirt looking my ugliest best doing just nothing but couching & watching my favorite Sitcoms (please exclude all the daily soaps cause I detest them to the core). And the newly acquired one is a sport called Ultimate Frisbee (thanks to my husband for introducing me to the sport), it helps me to stay fit & enjoy a good game with my husband and his bunch of boys. So indulge in some crazy & mad stuff, do things you like even if it’s shopping and keep yourself happy & away from ageing thoughts. I can’t guarantee “No more fine lines” with this method, but this will surely delay the appearance of those damn ugly lines on your pretty face.

I always remember what my grandma used to tell me during my childhood days & growing up years. She always insisted on staying healthy, she said if you’re healthy inside, you’re naturally beautiful outside. She didn’t believe in any cosmetics that could bring some magical fairness or give you lengthy & glossy hair. And I guess that was one reason why she is still considered the epitome of beauty in our family, we all craved to have complexion & skin like hers, and she was one woman who was out-rightly active before getting bed-ridden, never had any cholesterol, diabetes or any old age sickness.  I guess that’s the concept of beauty being skin deep which is rather misconstrued in our current world. So all that I’d conclude with is that we all our beautiful in our own unique way (that’s what I feel when I look at myself in the mirror every morning, when my hair is all messed up, with dark circles formed around my eyes with residue of kajal or even if a new pimple pops up from no-where) Well I do sound melodramatic now, please don’t start imagining me in my horrible morning look nowJ. So getting back to the point, don’t run after size zero & devoid yourself from your daily dose of nutrition, exercise to stay fit & healthy. Don’t experiment with plethora of cosmetic options to get some unnatural fairness, retain your beautiful natural complexion, and just take care to keep your skin healthy. Indulge in some weekly/occasional dose of madness to revive the child hidden in you. Stay healthy & beautiful!!